I think, it is this dedication that makes filial piety one of the characterising aspects of Chinese. (Of course, not only the Chinese are filial; I am not stereotyping, neither being narcissistically ignorant of how other cultures highlight filial piety.)amhoanna wrote:Hi, Sim. Much remains unspoken in the Hoklosphere in regards to this, namely the "place" of women in Hoklo society.
The Chinese traditional mindset holds that the mother should be at home, locked, while the father works, out in the paddy field. I think it's purely a coincidence, but a child would naturally feel indebted, and take care of both of them. Since that is the social norm then, the mother wouldn't complain, which I think, further worsens the guilt.
Nowadays however, women come up for rights; they demand for work opportunities, and freedom. I mean, it's totally fine, they are humans after all. It is just, we as males are stubbornly unwilling to take over their job as the house-regulator. Therefore, parents fight over money, or who to do the chores - there is no clear line as to who to do what. I'm sure parents nowadays shout at each other, like gods hammering dogs, more regularly than the previous generations. I mean, how do you expect the next generation to feel anything when both of their parents are obviously only half-hearted in managing this family - they both want money.
That is why I don't see women at home as being wrong. I actually hope I could get a wife who likes to be at home and do all the chores, and says nothing about it. It implants a firm image that your parents are willing to do anything for you - who wouldn't be propelled to repay this 'irrepayable' debt? (See how the ancients like to stress that the kindness (恩) of their parents are so immense that one can never fully repay them. You don't see anyone saying that anymore.) Besides, how can women being at home be shameful? Children are always closer to their mother, and considering they are ultimately who you would be spending the last years of your life with (males statistically die first >.<), I would consider it a bliss that you are with someone who loves you everyday.
Of course, not every woman values love from child over financial assurance. It all depends on the horoscopes. Then again, I am just crapping here in the best intentions of the child's mental growth. ^^
*The ultimate digression from Hokkien. Wakakakakaka.*